The Power of New Mothers
Have you ever seen the face of a woman as her newborn is placed on her chest after a long and sometimes difficult birth? There is nothing else like it. That amazing feeling of relief, love, new life, and the feeling of accomplishment is overwhelming as tears fill her eyes and she sees this new being for the first time.
I have been associating with women through my profession for many years. I have learned a ton from these women. Women are the most resilient, the most dedicated, the most adaptable, and consistent people in the world. I have followed a young mother who was scared and alone become a confident strong woman through the process of pregnancy and birth. I have watched the transformation of fear turn into trust of one’s own body and intuition. I have observed women who were so driven to give their babies the very best possible entrance into the world that they sacrificed their own comfort and endured way beyond what one might see as humanly possible.
To be a woman anticipating birth is to be challenged, to be pushed to do things that you would normally never do. Since the bond between a mother and a baby is so strong, it changes women. I have had clients that were professional, career oriented women and were trying to fit a baby into their schedule. These women adapt and change as their baby opens up a whole new world for them. I have had clients that were scared to death to have a baby, scared not only of pregnancy and labor and delivery but also afraid of taking a baby home. I have watched these women become full card carrying- baby wearing, breastfeeding, co-sleeping, cloth diaper wearing confident mommies. They become advocates for all sorts of things.
The fear turns into confidence as women transition into mothers. Babies somehow bring out the sweet part of life. Those little baby fingers and toes, that new baby aroma, the soft downy hair are just a few things that elicit the aaahhhhh response. Babies can mend relationships. I have seen families divided become forgiving and accepting because of a baby. The confidence that birth can bring to a woman can be a life changing experience.
Of course there are sad stories, difficult outcomes but even those are powerful events that help women to grow and become advocates for others.
As I have visited postpartum mothers in the hospital I always enjoy seeing the different ways mothers interact with their babies. Sometimes mothers are nervous, not at all confident in their breastfeeding skills or even how to hold the baby. Conversely I have seen some women who have their sleeping baby draped over their soft bellies, eating breakfast, talking on the phone and doing as much multitasking as possible. Babies come to every kind of mother and then the learning begins.
Women sacrifice so much to bring babies into this world. They sacrifice time, their bodies, their jobs and sometimes relationships in order to have a baby. They sometimes sacrifice what they thought their life was going to be in order to choose one that better suits their baby.
Babies grow into toddlers and with that growth comes a mother that has learned many things. Like how to keep your life going, how to do so many things at the same time and have them all turn out ok. Women are stretched when they become mothers and that stretching can be painful at times but ultimately it enlarges their capacity to love, to nurture, to be empathetic and to find solutions to seemingly impossible situations.
I have been truly blessed to associate with hundreds of these fantastic women. I have grown because of them. Being a midwife and nurse practitioner has brought me much happiness over many years.
Diana Buckwalter is a Certified Nurse Midwife, Family Nurse Practitioner and the Clinical Director at Denver Center for Birth and Wellness. We think she is pretty amazing, and you likely will too. Contact us to schedule a meet and greet or well-woman exam with Diana.